Attraction is important and very essential to the love process.  Attraction always comes before experience. Who and what you fail to attract you cannot experience.  In a world where there are few love opportunities to go round,  to not understand how to be attractive is to be left out of the love equations of life.  Let us share few reasons why attraction is crucial to love process.

ATTRACTION INFLUENCES DECISION: As far back as the garden of Eden,  Eve’s decision for the fruit was driven by the fact that that it was pleasantly the to the eyes. Except you develop enough attractiveness,  people might pass you o er in crucial decisions.  This is just the way humans are.  Men particularly are primarily driven by their attraction for women,  it is an irony that isn’t sometimes the best of women that get chosen.

ATTARCTIVENESS ATTRACTION OUR HEARTS: One ancient writer hit the nail on the head When he said ” my eyes affected my heart”  What he meant is that ” what you see stands the greatest chance of affecting your Heart ”. Conversely it means that if you cannot capture  the eyes,  you might not be able to capture the heart.  This is also proven by psychological research that the portion of our brains  that responds to images is over a thousand times larger than the part of it that responds to sounds.

ATTARCTIVENESS IS NOT CARNALITY: It’s quite unfortunate that many religions promote an anti attractiveness mindset.  In their opinion,  anything attractive is termed worldly.  They seem to believe that the more attractive you bare the less you are and the the less attractive you are the more spiritual you would be. But I beg to disagree because I have met loads of spiritual but attractive people and I’ve also met some unattractive and unspiritual persons.  I am of the opinion that there is no need to sacrifice your attractiveness for the sake of spirituality because the One most of us worship is regarded as the ” The Fairest of thousands” and our ultimate home is Infinitely more beautiful than this place.  So we had better got used to the idea of beauty here and now.

ATTRACTION FUELS PASSION: We are naturally passionate about the things we are attracted to and passive about the things we are not attracted to.  Attractiveness unlocks our passions.  This is a crucial lesson in marriage that many miss out on.
For example when a woman allows herself to be buried in house chores and children upbringing at the expense of her own body cleanliness thereby looking haggard and unkempt like a neglected housemaid,  she has lost her sense of attractiveness to her husband and it won’t be long before the husband starts looking for a neater lady outside. The marriage foundation is already shaky and it could fall any moment.
Tragic as it sounds,  it is a known fact that attractiveness fuels passion and passion fuels our pursuit.

ATTRACTION COMMANDS ATTENTION: Attention is the scariest resource I our fast paced world.  So many things are competing for our attraction at the same time.  Those who are not attractive won’t get noticed and if you can’t get noticed,  you can’t get anything else.  I am not advocating we start doing crazy things like dressing half naked or provocatively just to get attention.  This in itself is counter productive because it will attract the wrong kind of people into your life. You must however know how to standout from the crowd ethically in order to maximize the love opportunities that life has for you.

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About Bamigboye Olayemi

Whatever you do or wherever you find yourself, try to make a difference, try to live a purposeful life by helping others in your own little way because that is all we should all aspire to do in this chaotic world that we find ourselves...we are here for all of us.
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