Contents and the Container by Bamigboye Olayemi

Many of us can best be described as very spontaneous, full of live and adrenaline rush that we tend to breeze through life without considering the pros and cons of our thoughts, decisions and actions. We are so zealous, ambitious and enthusiastic about life that even the speed of light is no match for us.
It is a good thing actually because without zeal, passion, ambition and enthusiasm one can be likened unto as a living-dead but have you ever asked yourself where it is you’re rushing to and why haven’t you reached your destination ever since? We live in the jet-age is usually the common slogan,  ‘patience’  has been left out of our dictionaries, we want everything done at such an Incredible pace that peradventure it doesn’t come on time we swiftly move unto the next item on the list,  as it’s usually said over here (no time to check time).
Many businesses have been fraught with failures because people fail to consider the pros and cons before dabbling into it, no preparation whatsoever and as a result they are ill-equipped to combat any challenge that arises and hence failure, bankruptcy.
The place of adequate and careful preparation in any endeavor be it examination, career, relationship, marriage cannot be overemphasized. A popular saying sums it up beautifully “if you fail to prepare you prepare to fail”.  Life is just too precious to live every minute of it dreaming alone without taking steps to actualize the dreams because faith without works is dead (James 2:14-26).
The same goes for relationships, you don’t just nosedive into it hoping when you ‘ get to the bridge you shall know how to cross it’ instead why not consider the pitfalls, potholes and bumps, speed limits on the bridge before embarking on the journey, this will ensure that you’re adequately ready for anything the bridge might throw your way. Majority of the young ones nowadays have a skewed idea of who/what an ideal partner should be like. I am not here to confirm your expectations of how an ideal partner should be but to make you understand that external beauty alone isn’t sufficient in choosing a partner.


Hollywood, Bollywood, Nollywood and all the woods of this world have not helped matters at all as they give us a very distorted interpretation of what an ideal partner or relationship should be. They tend to project the anatomical contours, breasts , bums, six-pack and the likes as the things to watch out for in choosing a mate neglecting the inner beauty which doesn’t fade away but gets renewed with time and experience. Unlike external beauty which some celebrities spend thousands of dollars to augment to look acceptable once again, inner beauty is just like an old wine which gets better and better with time. Little wonder the rates of divorces amongst the celebrities reached an all time high ridiculing a once sacred institution ‘marriage’ into mere formality.
What am I saying in essence, beauty is vain and deceitful but a woman who fears the Lord shall be praised (Prov 31:30). Don’t get me wrong beauty is good at least no one wants to associate with anything that isn’t beautiful to behold even God after finishing His creations exclaimed that they were GOOD(beautiful). So beauty is good but beyond beauty (container) it would be wise to Consider the Content of the container as well. 2Tim 2:20 describes different types of containers some unto honor while others unto dishonor, some made of wood and others of earth, some of gold while some of silver.  It will sadden you to know that majority of the barbie-containers, six-pack containers have rotten contents.
Some ladies truly are paragons of beauty but they are an accident waiting to happen when you get close to them, one might not have peace when one marries them, some guys although handsome to behold and always forming pious and holy are serial wife beaters, some are unfaithful and ‘players’ in disguise.
So before you blindly and ignorantly fall head over heels in love with a person, check out his life, his beliefs, his actions do they align with what you want in a partner, does he practice what he preaches or is he just a serial pretender. Ask questions, you have the right to know much about the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Prayerfully study him/her and don’t rely solely on your understanding alone because many people are very good actors and actresses it only takes a divine help for you to know the real intent of their hearts. That is why the Holy Spirit of God is always available to us at every moment, He reveals the expertly locked up secrets of the hearts and will even forewarn you of the dangers that may arise in the future, why not cultivate a working relationship with Him today so He could lead you unto the right path.  I wish you the very best in  your respective decisions in life, I pray you will not miss it.

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About Bamigboye Olayemi

Whatever you do or wherever you find yourself, try to make a difference, try to live a purposeful life by helping others in your own little way because that is all we should all aspire to do in this chaotic world that we find ourselves...we are here for all of us.
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