I do not know if words from the pages of a well written book have ever leapt at you with a powerful embrace before. Such was the case when I came across a particular phrase in the bible about the man ‘Daniel’. Various adjectives were employed in describing the qualities that Daniel possessed, qualities like virtue, integrity, moral excellence, faithfulness to mention but a few stands out. Summarizing everything the bible has to say about the man Daniel you’d arrive at the conclusion that “Daniel, was a man of quality.”
As you would expect I began to ask myself who a man of quality is. How should, or how would we describe a man of quality? The fields will definitely (be wider than we can imagine) encompass intellect, civic responsibility, professional and dress comportment, familial and social responsibility, excellence and gentlemanliness. Somehow it is hard not to imagine the picture of a well-dressed accomplished gentleman who’s respected in community. But he’s not only respected in society, there is domestic testimonial about him as well. His wife lends credence to his quality, only his wife knows what she has truly lost at his death (assuming that’s God’s order of departure). He’ll be a worthy role model to his sons, they will want to emulate him, seek to achieve because of him. And his daughters? Oh, she’ll know she has a daddy! She’ll be on the lookout for a worthy man for mating. There’s something hearty about the phrase, “Man of Quality.” He’s truly a remarkable man. I think it’s worth aspiring to – to seek to become a Man of Quality.
If you want to aspire to that repute, there are things you need to pay attention to. Let’s start with the easiest – grooming. You need to pay attention to your looks no matter the size of your budget. Wear your suit impeccably, your shoes shined, your shirt neatly ironed, your tie tastefully knotted (if you are into ties). Just a little bit of attention is all that’s required. Even if you wear casuals pay attention… It’s a mindset you know. And your car? It’s your physical dimension. You shouldn’t be driving a dirty car, it just does not depict excellence.
A man of quality has character, he’s got integrity. His word is respected. You can strike a deal with him on a handshake (he’s such a gentleman). You can’t be a man of quality without character else your “quality” will reek of stench.
Then there’s the issue of how he treats women – wife, girlfriend (I see some ladies adjusting their seats)… He respects his woman, treats her well, takes care of her. She in turn respects him, looks up to him – for advice, for leadership. She trusts him, absolutely! Trusts his judgment. She loves the fact that he’s out there striving, trying to make his way in this world, trying to take care of his family.
He’s also a respected member of his community, at whatever level he finds himself; age is no barrier. He’s respected at work, respected in church, respected at home. People value his contribution, his participation. He talks sense! His reasoning is sound. He’s civic minded, contributes his quota to his nation.
He’s constantly conscious of the fact that God has been kind to him and so with the same understanding he’s kindly disposed to the poor. He helps others, gives opportunities and contributes to the upliftment of others.
He’s disciplined too – has discipline of mind and spirit. He disciplines himself for accomplishment, avoids distractions. People have expectations of him and his character and he understands those expectations very clearly.
He’s ambitious yet lives within his means. He doesn’t have a need to impress as is common with some small boys out there. He’s accomplished. He has a sense of mission in life and is conscious of his legacy, especially to those coming behind. He wants his life to amount to something, wants his children to be proud of him, to have a good name.
A man of quality is spiritual. He seeks God, fears God and gives God His pride of place-Humbles himself before God.
These are what I could garner from the life and character of Daniel – the kind of man he is. Of course there is no complete information on him – his wife, his children; but you could tell the kind of man he is. And so the portrait of a man of quality is a God fearing, civic minded, responsible man who’s respected in society. He’s intelligent, he’s a role model, a trusted and wise individual, a man of integrity, of benevolent disposition. He’s fixated on excellence. Everything about him exemplifies quality. He’s trusted by his woman. His girlfriend trusts him. His wife trusts him for his character.
May you and I be a man of quality.
But what will it take to be such a man? Simple! You need clarity. You must be clear as to what you want to become. You must also be clear as to what you DON’T want to become. Develop your statement of clarity. “I want to be a well-respected member of my community, a regarded leader, a man of repute”, is a statement of clarity. Being a man of quality takes conscious effort, and study.
Of course friends matter; you must be mindful of the quality of friends you keep. A friend is your reflection. An achiever does not felicitate in the fellowship of the slothful, indolent and directionless. Being an achiever is a mindset – a disciplined mind set with laser focus and clarity. If you want your wife or girlfriend to respect you, focus on achievement. It’s hard to respect a guy with no ambition. Ultimately a disadvantaged man with vision and discipline will invariably overtake the privileged indolent lacking in both. If you don’t set yourself up for the future, you’re not going to arrive there.
What do you want to become? By this post I’m compelling a rethink so your life is not wasted away. You don’t have as much time as you think. When you know who you want to become you’ll know who you should date or not date. The future is invariably how we conceive of it. Don’t just be a man, be a man of quality.